Two weeks ago, we were in Wamena for an airplane inspection, happily enjoying the cool air. And today, we are in Nampa, ID, happily staring at our new daughter (and freezing in the frigid air)! To say that the last two weeks have been a whirlwind, would be an understatement.
On Saturday evening, Feb. 11, in Wamena, we received an email from our adoption agency saying there was a new birth parent snyopsis to view. This has happened 14 times since we completed our home study, so we have learned not to get our hopes too high. But we read the synopsis and asked the agency to show our profile to the birth mom. In this case, the baby had already been born and so they expected a quick placement.
The following morning, we woke up to an email saying that we were one of three families that the birth mom was considering! They wanted to know how fast we could possibly get to Idaho. After some quick internet searches, we figure out that Elias and I could be in Idaho by Tuesday. Then the agency asked us to call; we assumed the wanted to discuss travel plans…but they actually wanted to tell us that the birth mom had chosen us! Tears. Joy. Scramble! We quickly called our families and then some people at MAF’s headquarters. They helped us book last minute plane tickets, and by the next day, Elias and I were departing Wamena for the States. Nathan stayed in Indonesia a few days longer so that he could wrap things up on his airplane, and get back to Nabire to pack up our house for furlough.
Travel with a 3-year-old is no joke, but Elias did amazing. I am so proud of him. Upon landing in Idaho on Tuesday afternoon (nearly 48 hours after we left Wamena), my in-laws, who had driven up from Arizona, picked us up at the airport. We quickly got showered and a change of clothes. By 5:30 pm we were at the adoption agency with baby in hand. Nathan joined a few days later and we were finally all together as a family of FOUR!
And the rest, as they say, is history…foggy, jet-lagged-while-similtaneously-caring-for-a-newborn history. And we couldn’t be happier.
I love stories. It doesn’t even have to be a good story, I still want to know how it ends. This is why I have trouble not finishing a bad book, or a terrible movie. I even want to see the end of Elias’ episodes of Octonauts or Wild Kratts. It kills me when a show is cancelled before the story resolves.
The story I’m currently living, the story of our second adoption, isn’t over. I’m anxiously awaiting to hear the resolve. Who will our child be? When will he or she be born? Only God knows, and He is the best storywriter of them all!
In the mean time, we are doing what we can to prepare. So we have set up a site where you can donate if you are interested in helping us with the costs of adoption. It is a non-profit organization and so your donation is tax-deductible! You can find it here.
There’s this lovely little word in Indonesian that explains more about Indonesian’s ability to be ever hopeful than any other word I have come across. Just this one word displays hopeful anticipation that everyone here seems to have. Even in the face of unknown odds, this word give a glimmer of light to an other wise cloudy situation. You know what it is?
Unless it is known beyond a shadow of a doubt that something is absolutely not true and will never be true, most Indonesians will use the word “belum” where we might other wise say no. Is the sky green? No. Have you ever been to the moon? Not yet! Is you child a girl? No. Do you like shrimp? Not yet!
I loved this word when we were experiencing infertility. Do you have children? Not yet!
So, today, the day we received another “no” about a possible adoption match (our 7th), I fully believe that God is not saying NO to us in this adoption, He’s only saying NOT YET. There is a child out there for us. A child that God has hand-picked for our family and we will wait for him or her with hopeful anticipation!
photo credit: http://www.thetaylormadeadventures.com
My baby is two and a half years old today! How did he get so big so quickly?
Everyone once and awhile it washes over me all over again how blessed I am to be this boys mama. Out of all the kids in all the world…God put us together. Adoption is awesome
He is silly and sweet. And adventurous while cautious. He talks a mile a minute and likes to tell stories. Recently, he likes to hold my face in his hands and says, “You’re a cute baby, mama!” He notices things, like when I am wearing new earrings, or when I have an new “owie.” He’s a heartbreaker.
When Nathan comes home after a day of flying, he likes to run into his arms and knock him over. He loves to give “all the kisses” and squeezes so tight when he gives hugs. I hope he never grows out of that…but I know he probably will.
Sweet Elias Tate…I love you.
My baby is eighteen months old. Where does the time go? It somehow seems like yesterday and also ages ago that we held him for the first time. He is one awesome kid!
Some fun facts about Elias:
1. He loves to swim. I mean, like, really truly loves it. He is a crazy man in the water and he has no fear!
2. He loves to help me in the kitchen. Just about every time I’m cooking or baking, he scoots a stool over to stand next to me so that he can, ahem, “help.”
3. He wants to be a big kid. If the big kids are jumping off the top of the playset, he wants to jump too! We don’t let him of course…He keeps us on our toes!
4. He loves to give hugs and kisses. I’m so grateful for my affectionate boy!
5. He likes to help around the house, so I give him little tasks to do like putting his dirty clothes in the hamper, cleaning up his own spills and throwing dirty diapers in the trash. He has such a happy spirit about it! I hope that we can continue to foster that spirit as he grows.
Just over a year ago, on August 15, 2013, we went to court, signed some papers, and left as an official family of three!
We ended up being in Sentani for Elias’ “Gotcha Day” this year, but we still had a mini party with good friends, pizza, brownies and ice cream.
What a difference a year makes, huh? Last year’s Gotcha Day:
We sure do love this sweet boy of ours and are ever so grateful that he is forever ours!!
One year ago today (today as in, March 10…not today as in March 11…because it’s already March 11 in Indonesia. But it’s still March 10 in America…where we were a year ago. Confused?), we were anxiously awaiting a phone call from our adoption agency to tell us that our baby boy had been born. My phone did not leave my side. My heart skipped a beat every time it rang.
And then, on March 12, a glorious day indeed, at 9:15 a.m., my phone rang, my heart skipped a beat and it was the agency! He’s born! He was actually born the night before while we slept (putting his birthday on March 11). I called Nathan. We rushed (bags were already packed). We went to the agency and did a bunch of paperwork (“sign on the dotted line and he’s yours!” Best. Signature. Ever.) And then we made the e t e r n a l 4 hour drive to Pocatello to meet our baby boy.
And the rest, as they say, is history.
What a crazy year it has been. Elias has fit right into our family. He has travelled all over the U.S. and the world and been such a champ about it. He has made us laugh and cry and lose a lot of sleep. But man, is it ever worth it! He’s a treasure. My little boy.
We are ever so grateful for the woman who gave him life and then selflessly gave him to us. How can we ever fully express what a gift he is?? There aren’t enough words. But if you, dear woman, happen to be reading this, thank you. One gazillion times thank you for this little boy that now owns a piece of my heart.
Last Saturday we had our very first “Gotcha” party for Elias. I know he won’t remember this one, but I want him to be able to look back at pictures someday and know that Mom and Dad were excited to say “Gotcha!” (forever and ever.) We are so grateful that both of our parents were able to come out for the court date and the party! Once we move back to Indonesia, we won’t have grandparents close by, so the moments they are around are super special.
Despite his angry face in this picture, this little boy loves to be outside!
Thanks for coming out everyone!
Happy family of three!
From here on out, August 15 will be a special day in our family, because on this day (that’s today y’all) we finalized our adoption!
We already knew that Elias was ours, but know the government knows it too The whole court proceeding was quick and formal. We signed a bunch of stuff and agreed that we would care for Elias.
Waiting for everything to start with Grandpa and Grandma and Grandma and Grandpa.
Entertaining the troops, still waiting for things to start.
Signing to make it official!
And that’s all she wrote! No going back now…you’re stuck with us little man. All said and done, this adoption process took 13 months from initial application to finalization. Pretty amazing if you ask me!
SOOO…what does all of this mean? Well, Elias is officially a Fagerlie. Which means we can (and already have) requested a new birth certificate for him with us listed as his parents. And once we get that, he can get his social security number and passport. And once we get that, we will get him a visa. And once we get that, we can return home to Indonesia!!
If, and that’s a big if, all of that goes smoothly and efficiently, we could possibly be heading back to Indonesia in October. We are SO excited! Hold on tight Indonesia, there is one super-cute cutie coming your way!
This makes me oh-so proud and oh-so nervous at the very same time. My boy can balance! My man is strong!
P.S.- Don’t worry, he has never come even close to falling from this position Just makes my little mama heart nervous.
P.P.S.- BIG NEWS! We will be finalizing our adoption next Thursday! Yahoo! Forever a family.